Soothing Phrases You Can Use To Help Someone With Anxiety

Misbah has done her Bachelor’s degree in psychology. She has access to a wide range of mental health experts who treat mental illness.

It is difficult to provide proper assistance or support to a person suffering from anxiety. When one tries, the results are often the opposite: The person worsens. Why?

First and foremost, it must be acknowledged that good intentions are not enough and that a person with anxiety is incapable of thinking or acting logically. They might not be as mentally healthy as you are. Do you wish to lend a helping hand?

In this article, we will discuss some phrases that you can say to someone who is suffering from anxiety.

You don’t get them, you don’t get what’s going on with them, and you don’t get why they’re trapped and paralyzed if nothing significant happened to them. You only know that the person suffering from anxiety is in pain, and you want to help them, but it appears that your efforts are merely prolonging their pain. Do you truly wish to assist? Arm yourself, especially with two things: Empathy and tolerance.

Empathy is the ability to put yourself in the shoes of another person, even if you are unaware of what is going on. And patience, because there are no magic words or magical cures that can instantly cure their anxiety problems.

What do you say to someone who has lost hope, feels lost, and can’t seem to find a way forward? What can you say to someone who is physically and psychologically tired and has no desire to accomplish anything other than surviving another day?

Anxiety can change a person’s thinking completely. Everything takes a negative spin and becomes a possible threat. That person gets tired of dealing with anxiety. Inside, there’s a lot of uneasiness, a lot of loss of control, and a lot of doubts. And above all, there are a lot of physical signs of anxiety, such as a rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, dizziness, and obsessive thoughts, which prevent the sufferer from forgetting about the illness.

Phrases That Can Be Said to Help Someone With Anxiety
You don’t have to come up with an explanation for their situation; just understand that’s what it is. Maybe counseling them to relax, that nothing bad is going on with them, or asking to approach life differently just makes them feel worse.

Don’t tell them what you would have done if you were in their situation. The person suffering from anxiety is not interested in knowing that and they cannot think logically. So it’s time for you to switch gears and use the finest words for calming and relieving an anxious individual.

I am here to help you with whatever you need.

Don’t just leave the person alone with this single statement. Try to hear them. Make them feel you truly want to help. The demands of a person suffering from anxiety may surprise you, so provide your assistance without judging what is better or worse for that individual. Listen to them carefully.

Do you want to talk?

People with anxiety sometimes want to talk about what they are feeling. The general feeling is one of confusion, so it is good to put your emotions and thoughts in order by talking to someone suffering from anxiety. But keep in mind that the next moment they may be so emotionally overwhelmed that they don’t want to talk.

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You need to watch and observe when they feel it is easy for them to share their feelings with you and when not. Do not force them to talk. Always be patient and show them that you care and love them. Always listen to them carefully so that they can feel you care and not judging them. An anxious person always doubts that others are judging them, never make them feel this way.

I love you, you can trust me.

We always feel pleased and relaxed when we know we are loved and cared for, according to human psychology. It is very important for the anxious person to feel that they are loved, that they can trust you with everything, and that you would assist them. Tell them you are always there for them, that you love them, and that they can always rely on you.

Let them feel you as a caring and helpful person so that they may express their thoughts with you without feeling embarrassed.

Cry all you want.

Uncontrollable crying is a very evident symptom of anxiety. Don’t ask them why they’re crying; they might not know. Let them know that they are free to cry in your presence and that it will not disturb you.

The fear will go away, I am always with you.

Fear that they will never be able to overcome anxiety, fear of fatalistic ideas, fear of anxiety symptoms, fear of fear. This is how a person with anxiety feels, and you need to assure them that you will experience the fear with them. Tell them they are not alone. You will be walking with them throughout and will never leave their side ever. Assure them with your kind words that you are always there.

You are not alone, I am with you

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Where would you feel most comfortable?

When making a plan to get out of the house, keep in mind the fear we discussed before. Not all places are appropriate for someone who suffers from anxiety, particularly if there are a lot of people or a lot of noise. Allow them to choose where they feel most at ease. Ask them if they feel comfortable going there?

Whether you believe it or not, you are secure now, and this will pass.

This expression represents a ray of hope at the end of the tunnel. Give it to them without putting any pressure on them, without criticizing them, and without blaming them for their mistakes. But offer it to them with assurance, so they know they’ll be secure with you and that, sooner or later, they’ll be able to conquer their worries.

Last Thoughts
We all have a role to play in eliminating the stigma associated with mental illness. As a caregiver, you are in a unique position to do this by engaging the person you care about with patience and love.

Be patient with them and let them feel your love, but set boundaries to protect yourself as a person and as a caregiver. Don’t create your own anxiety by restricting your actions and behaviors. Self-care is also important in helping them.

It is recommended to consult a health or mental health professional and discuss the patient’s mental health.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Misbah Sheikh

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on September 22, 2021:

Thank you so much for your very kind and generous comment, Bredz. I wish people could understand of what the anxiety sufferers feels like. To help them and feel their pain is important. A good counseling and words of love from friends and family can help a lot the sufferers to release the pain they’re carrying in but this does need a lot of empathy and patience. A lot of us lack in here, I believe. Take care and stay healthy!!

Blessings and Love, dear friend.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on September 22, 2021:

Thank you so much for your very kind comments and for sharing your thoughts with me, Teodora. Greatly appreciated, dear friend. All the anxiety sufferers need is to be understood and loved. Sadly and unfortunately very less people really care but I have seen many people who love to support such people. In such cases, family and friends can help a lot but again I would say it needs a lot of patience to handle such people and many don’t have that required patience. God bless you, dear friend.

Sending Love and Hugs.

BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on September 21, 2021:


A great article with sound advice.

It’s hard for someone to reach out to others when he suffers from anxiety.

Simply just being there is a blessing.

Teodora Gheorghe on September 21, 2021:

As an anxiety sufferer, ‘Where would you feel most comfortable?’ is one of the questions that I would have liked to be asked more often… Not many people understand what we are going through, especially when agoraphobia is also involved. It is also difficult to put into words the complexities of anxiety disorders. In fact, no one can truly understand what anxiety sufferers are going through except for themselves. However, people who are empathetic by nature and really care for their loved ones CAN help them using these soothing phrases, by being there and making the anxiety sufferers feel loved and at least partially understood.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on September 21, 2021:

If you wish to help someone with anxiety then arm yourself, especially with two things: Empathy and tolerance.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 23, 2021:

Amara, thank you so much for your lovely comment. Yes, anxiety is a very common issue these days. I’m glad it piqued your interest.

Allah bless you too.

Blessings and Love

Amara from Pakistan on June 23, 2021:

Its an interesting and well written Hub Misbah, every other person is dealing with anxiety..

Keep up your good work sis.. Allah bless you always..

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 22, 2021:

Thank you so much for your kind remarks, Flourish. I am glad you liked the tips. Yes anxiety is a very common problem nowadays. Stay safe and healthy

Blessings to you

FlourishAnyway from USA on June 22, 2021:

You’re very tuned in to those experiencing anxiety. It seems like they are everywhere these days. Thank you for tips on how to support them.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 21, 2021:

Thank you so much, dear sister, Rozlin. I appreciate your kind and generous comment. I am glad to know you found it helpful and interesting. Thank you for your compliments about the topics of my hubs. I appreciate you saying that I am glad you like my topics. Much Love!! Stay tuned

Many Blessings and Love to you

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 21, 2021:

Oh! Dear Pamela, HubPages very often do such things with me as well. Sometimes, I don’t get email notifications for the new published hubs and sometimes they don’t appear in my feed. I am glad you were able to catch it in the feed. Thank you so much for your kind words of appreciation and please feel free to share it. I would be glad to help in any way I can. It’s always a pleasure to read your comment on my work. Much Gratitude!!! Keep smiling

Blessings and Love

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 21, 2021:

Thank you so much for your lovely comment, Denise. Highly appreciated, dear friend. I am glad you liked it. Stay safe and healthy

Many Blessings and Love

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 21, 2021:

Linda, you are a beautiful soul, my dear friend. I highly appreciate your efforts helping him. An anxious person don’t need our suggestions. They are not in such condition to think or act logically. All their need is love and care. I am so glad to meet you here, Linda. You are very kind. I wish and pray May God reward you the very best for your good and kind deeds. Stay blessed and happy. Much Love!! Blessings always

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 21, 2021:

Thank you so much Ishika, I highly appreciate that.

Blessings to you!!

Rozlin from UAE on June 21, 2021:

This is a very interesting article and helpful too. I like the way you choose topics for a hub, Misbah. You always choose an informative and helpful topic for your hub. I liked it. Thanks for sharing this one. Blessings and lots of love

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on June 21, 2021:

This is an excellent article, Misbah. I think it is very difficult to deal with someone who is distraught or upset. You don’t always have the right words.

I love all of your suggestions. I am going to forward this article to someone who is often dealing with this person who is so angry much of the time. I think it will be helpful.

For some reason I did not receive an email about this article, but found it in my feed. I am so glad I found it.

Love and blessings.

Denise McGill from Fresno CA on June 21, 2021:

This is wonderfully helpful. I will be keeping these things in mind in the future. Thanks for sharing this.



Linda Lum from Washington State, USA on June 21, 2021:

Misbah, what a beautiful article. You have explained so very well what those who are hurting really need. Not suggestions, just an ear to listen and a shoulder to lean on.

I think it is also helpful to let your loved one know that their words are safe; my Godson is going through a rough patch right now with his mom (dad is in the Army and is deployed halfway around the world). I let him know that he can tell me anything and it will be just between the two of us.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 21, 2021:

Thank you so much for your kind and insightful comment, Peggy. I agree we really need non-judgemental people around us so they can hear us without judging us.

Thank you for reading and your nice comment.

Stay happy and healthy

Blessings always

ISHIKA MEHERE from NAGPUR on June 21, 2021:

Wow that is really thoughtful of you.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on June 21, 2021:

Showing love, empathy, and understanding are gifts to offer people, especially those who have anxiety. We all occasionally need non-judgmental people to be there for us and hear what we have to say. Your excellent advice may help countless others who read this article.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 21, 2021:

Hi Brittany, nice to see your comment. I loved your article about poetry I have read it and it was a wonderful read. I wasn’t able to make a comment on it as it didn’t appear on my feed but please know I loved it. I am always here to listen, dear friend. You are not alone. Keep sharing your thoughts.

Many Blessings and Love to you, dear friend

Brittany Benko from South Carolina on June 21, 2021:

Great article. I also suffer from anxiety, and these tips were comforting to read.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 21, 2021:

Mr. Bill, I always love to see and wait for your comment on my article. You are so true sometimes all we need is to be heard. Thanks for sharing your insightful thoughts. Gratitude, Sir. Stay safe and smiling

Sending you lots of Blessings

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 21, 2021:

Thank you so much for your kind comment, Rosina. I highly appreciate that. I am glad you liked and found the article to be helpful. Stay safe and healthy

Blessings and Love

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on June 21, 2021:

I love you suggestions! Sometimes, all a person needs is to be heard. Anxiety seems to be of epidemic proportions these days. These are unsettling times, with millions afraid of what the new day will bring. Sad for sure, my friend. Anyway, I’m rambling. Have a wonderful day, and thank you for being who you are.

Blessings always

Rosina S Khan on June 21, 2021:

This article actually gives sound advice on how to comfort and relax someone suffering from anxiety. This is so beneficial as we come across so many loved ones who feel anxious and stressed out. Thank you, Misbah, for sharing this wonderful article.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 21, 2021:

Hi John, thank you so much for your kind and generous comment. I am so glad you liked it and you found it helpful. I wish and pray it may help you. God Bless you and keeps you safe and healthy. Amen!

Many Blessings to you

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 21, 2021:

Thank you so much for your lovely remarks, MsDora. We really need to lend a helping hand to the people suffering from anxiety. If few soothing phrases can help them then why not? I am glad you found it thoughtful and helpful. God bless you

Many Blessings and Love

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on June 21, 2021:

Thanks a lot for your kind comments, Eman. I am glad you found it helpful. Stay Blessed and Happy

Love and Blessings

John Hansen from Australia (Gondwana Land) on June 21, 2021:

You offer wonderful advice and excellent responses to give someone with anxiety. Thank you for sharing, Misbah. This is very useful for me.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on June 21, 2021:

Very thoughtful and helpful. On the last one, the fear may not go away completely, but the promise of being there will help it subside. These phrases are worth remembering.

Eman Sehar on June 21, 2021:

Very well written article. I love the way you describe all the techniques to help someone suffering from anxiety.

Love and blessings!